Long-term readers of this blerg will know that I've expressed some divergent thoughts on marriage (hither and thither) and its relative importance to me and my life goals. It's not that I don't fully support equality, on the marriage front as much as any other front, it's just that I'd like the equality debate to not hinge on that implicit dichotomy—singles vs. couples. Those of us in a binding lifelong union vs. those of us who are maybe single, maybe in a non-binding lifelong union, or maybe we're just Nickelback fans and who the f*ck could spend undying eternity with a Nickelback fan?
All of this is just to say that I wish there were more laws on the books that respected and protected a more diverse array of life choices, like planned-for single parenthood or constantly getting a lot of (self-respecting) ass because you feel like it. (I discussed this much more in depth in my last HuffPo piece, FYI.) It seems there's still this underlying fear of a gray area that's informing the marriage debate in this country, but queerness is kind of all about that gray area, you know? I'm hoping that sex education and prevalent social mores come to reflect that in due time...but for now—pretty wedding moodboards!
If I do get married, it's going to be glamorous as f*ck. I'm determined to get married outdoors and I will only get married in June. I'll wear something custom, duh, and the ceremony will also be performance art because I have to upstage Terence Koh's '09 East Hampton wedding.
Miranda Brooks' ceremony (always Miranda) seemed totally gorgeous and not too fussy (you can see the full thing here), so I have that in my head as a sort of low-budget blueprint. I mean, it wasn't even a destination wedding.
Honestly, I just want like, a band of gypsies playing jazz and ribbon dancing and I'll be happy. But I also really want a kid involved, so if I don't have one by then I'll have to borrow somebody's. As far as portrait photography goes, I've always really loved the above shot of NPH and David Burtka—it's actually romantic and not cheesy! But I think it was staged for a photo shoot? C'est la vie...
What are your thoughts on marriage? Will you be getting gay married soon?
Image credits: 1 & 2 // Les Loups, 3 // Stone Fox Bride (click image for source); all moodboard content via Pinterest (and there's more where this all came from, so check it out!)
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